While walking along the beach recently, I saw a woman who appeared to be around my age—seventy or so—wearing a very revealing swimsuit.
It caught my attention not just because of the outfit, but because of the way she carried herself: confidently, freely, without the slightest concern for how others might perceive her. For a moment, I watched her move along the shore with ease and grace, as though she belonged completely to the moment.
Curiosity stirred something in me. I found myself wondering whether her choice of clothing was appropriate for someone our age.
It’s not that I disapprove of confidence or self-expression—in fact, I pride myself on staying active and feeling young at heart—but I grew up in a time where aging was often associated with restraint, especially in how we dressed.
Elegance and modesty were seen as the marks of dignity in older women.
With this in mind, I decided to approach her. In a calm and polite tone, I mentioned that perhaps a more modest swimsuit might be a more suitable choice at our age. I wasn’t expecting confrontation—just an exchange of thoughts.
But what I received instead was unexpected. She simply laughed, said nothing, and kept walking as though I hadn’t spoken at all.
That moment stayed with me. It made me question why I felt compelled to offer such advice in the first place. Was it truly out of concern? Or was it my own discomfort—my own ingrained beliefs—speaking louder than anything else?
The more I thought about it, the more I began to reflect on how ideas of propriety have changed. Maybe the rules I had internalized about aging and appearance no longer hold the same meaning in today’s world.
Maybe they never did. That woman didn’t need approval, and she didn’t need permission to feel good in her own skin. She simply lived in it, unapologetically.
What I learned from that brief encounter is that confidence doesn’t come from conforming to expectations—it comes from honoring your own sense of self. Each of us should be free to choose how we look, how we live, and how we express who we are, regardless of the number attached to our age.
